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Understanding the Anxiety of Trying to Conceive: A Journey of Healing and Support

If you’re struggling with infertility or trying to conceive, you’re not alone. As a social……

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If you’re struggling with infertility or trying to conceive, you’re not alone. As a social worker specializing in reproductive health, I have witnessed firsthand the emotional rollercoaster many women and couples face when trying to start or grow their families. In my 12 years of experience in the field, I’ve encountered a common theme—anxiety, fear, and uncertainty often surface even before a woman conceives. This is a deeply human experience, yet one that isn’t often openly discussed.

Having personally walked the path of secondary infertility, I understand how overwhelming the desire to become a parent can be, especially when things don’t unfold as planned. After years of working with women in similar situations, I’ve realized that infertility is not just about physical challenges. It’s also about emotional, psychological, and social stressors that influence how women experience this journey.

The Unspoken Fear of Conceiving

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Before you even begin trying to conceive, there’s often an underlying fear that you might not be able to. It’s a fear that can start as soon as you begin to seriously think about having children. How does it all work? Will my body perform as it’s supposed to? Can I control the process? The reality is that much of this is out of our hands, and this uncertainty can create significant anxiety for many women.

As someone who has personally experienced secondary infertility, I understand the pain and confusion that accompanies these questions. You’re not only grappling with the idea of building your family, but you’re also learning to navigate a space where things don’t always go according to plan. You may feel the pressure to prove that your body is capable of something that seems so simple to others. This can lead to self-doubt, frustration, and even feelings of shame.

It’s important to recognize that these feelings aren’t isolated or unique to you—they’re common in the world of reproductive health. In fact, there is a definite theme of women, who call me for help, after only trying to conceive for a few months. They fear that something is wrong or that they are somehow broken. This is not only an emotional challenge but also a psychological one that needs careful attention.

The Cultural and Societal Pressures

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Why do these fears take root, especially in women? The answer is layered and complex, but a significant part of it lies in our cultural and societal narratives around fertility and womanhood.
From an early age, many women are taught that motherhood is a natural part of life—that the ability to conceive is almost instinctive. This narrative is not only unrealistic but places immense pressure on women to perform biologically in a way that aligns with societal expectations.

There is also the idea that a woman’s worth or identity is linked to her ability to bear children, which can add another layer of stress to the process. As a result, the natural process of trying to conceive often becomes clouded with fear, shame, and a sense of inadequacy. It’s no wonder that so many women feel anxious and uncertain when things don’t go as planned.

Reclaiming Control and Finding Calm

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So, what can you do about it? The first step is recognizing that anxiety and fear are normal feelings when you’re facing the uncertainties of fertility. And secondly, understanding that you are not defined by your ability to conceive, nor is your worth tied to that outcome.

As a social worker with over a decade of experience working with women who are navigating fertility challenges, my role is to provide a space where women can feel heard, understood, and supported. My job is to help calm the anxiety, allowing women to take a breath and find clarity amidst the chaos. I work to help you reconnect with your body, re-establish trust in yourself, and regain perspective so that you can move forward with a sense of freedom and peace.

Trying to conceive should not feel like an exhausting, lonely battle. It’s about finding balance and learning how to coexist with the process—embracing both the ups and downs while maintaining emotional well-being. When you feel supported and at peace with yourself, your journey toward parenthood can take on a new and more positive energy.

If you are struggling with fertility or the emotional toll of trying to conceive, know that you don’t have to go through it alone. I am here to help guide you through the emotional and psychological complexities, so you can breathe again, regain your strength, and approach the process with renewed confidence and hope.

Amira Posner

Amira Posner is Clinical Social Worker with a Bachelor and Masters Degrees in Social Work from the University of Manitoba. In addition to working with individuals, couples and families providing therapy in a secure and safe setting, she is a member of the Ontario Association of Social Workers (OASW) and Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers (OCSWSSW). Amira is also a certified hypnotherapist.

Amira Posner

March 6, 2025 • 4 minutes

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